I logged onto my Facebook today and was invited to some poker group by some girl I don't know. Clicked on the site and on her profile and nearly barfed all over my keyboard. Please, tone down on the sexploitation. Seeing your prepubescent tits squeezed from AA to B does not make me want to cry "All in!" and shove my chips forward. It just makes me wonder where are the kiddy porn police when you need them.
It does make me wonder what kind of men would actually go and participate in that event. Are they all single desperate geeks whose closest encounter with Actual Boobs (tm) were during their breastfeeding stages? Are they "normal" men who just tell their girlfriend they're going for a poker game and leave out the fact that there are going to be little girls dressed like Geylang sluts sauntering around the place? (And I'm assuming they're just sauntering around the place; who knows if they throw in extra services.)
It makes me sick. And for as long as I'm a producer, I will never ever resort to this low and tawdry form of marketing. What are we, animals?
It's not so much sour grapes (since I'm single) but cynicism steeped in a boatload of evidence that leads me to think that maybe relationships are overrated. What's the point? You care for someone, you do so much for them, and they go chasing after some random slutty girl who appears on their radar. All your sacrifice, all your love and care means nothing. Apparently the only way to get a man appears to be tossing any self-respect and dignity out the window and impersonating a blow-up doll. It doesn't even matter if you can't communicate in the same language, because clearly talking isn't a priority for men. Better yet if you don't talk at all, since clearly they've got their lives together, so your input, no matter how well-intended, is just nagging anyway.
Call me old-fashioned, but I still believe in a Prince Charming, an honest, righteous, loyal man who takes responsibility for his actions, means what he says, and doesn't lead you around like you're some naive, love-struck schoolgirl if he has no intention of ever being with you. A man who respects women and doesn't use them like they're nothing more than tools.
I try not to judge men who fall short of this ideal, because as things go, it's pretty darn obvious that very very very few men measure up to it. But I can't help it, I do. When I see jerks who use women, who brag about their conquests, who look so damn smug about hooking up with some girl, I look down on them, I don't consider them to be friends, and I hope they contract some STD that will make their pride and joy turn black and fall off.
Maybe that might mean I'll remain single for a long time to come. That's ok. I'd rather be single than to settle for some jerk who will just break my heart, flirting with other women on Facebook, going for "poker tournaments" and conveniently leaving out the sluts that come along, telling me all these lovely things then going behind my back and saying the same things to some other girl. I mean, what's the point of being in a relationship if you don't respect your partner? If you claim she's the only one and you go behind her back? Men complain about women being paranoid, possessive psychos, but when you're the one acting all secretive and suspicious, you have no bloody right to blame us. No one likes to be made a fool of. If the tables were turned, you wouldn't be happy either, would you?
It does make me wonder what's the point of being in a relationship? Unless the both of you meet when you're in your 80s, have a few happy days together and die, the likelihood of getting your heart broken at some point by the person who claims to love you is much too strong. All the long walks on the beach are not enough for the tears and pain. Give someone the keys to your heart and they're just going to rob you blind of your emotions.
And as much as I'd like to blame the "other woman", truth is, often they have no clue. Or if they do, then they're the boyfriend/husband-stealing monsters who deserve all the crap heaped upon them. But the onus is really on the boyfriend/husband. You have no excuse. You know what you're doing is wrong. The fact that you choose to continue shows what a scumbag you are and just how little respect you have for your partner. And when the day comes and you get found out, I hope you get to feel all of the pain and betrayal you have caused your partner. All the mental anguish she felt while she kept second guessing her instincts, wondering if she was going insane and trying to give you the benefit of the doubt. If you can't commit, then don't. DON'T LIE. I'm sure she could do MUCH better than you. Don't tie her to your mediocre, insecure, cheating ass.
And ladies, have some self-respect. Walk away. It is better to be alone than with someone who doesn't really love you. You're worth much more than that.
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